2girlsmom
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So my DD15 just had her very first boyfriend break up with her last Friday.  At school no less. They had been "going together" for about 10 months. How about some words to offer comfort or humor during this very painful time for her (and for all of us who live with her?)
I have used..."Boys stink"(not helpful)
"You can still be friends" (nope)
"At least he is not dating one of your friends" (nope)
"He's not at home crying about you so get dressed, put you make-up on and go forward (somewhat worked)
"Ask you dad to buy you a car"(worked initially until talked to DH)
Wish I had some sort of counseling degree instead of darned accounting. I don't think she needs me to balance her checkbook.
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Suebydoo
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Keep her busy, listen if she wants to talk, and take her shopping. Seriously, go shopping. I once read somewhere about a Dad who took his daughter out to buy a new pair of killer shoes so that she could walk away in style.
This part is not at all helpful but I love the Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter. Rule #6 states:
I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.
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crazymom4
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Quote: Originally Posted by Suebydoo
Keep her busy, listen if she wants to talk, and take her shopping. Seriously, go shopping. I once read somewhere about a Dad who took his daughter out to buy a new pair of killer shoes so that she could walk away in style.
This part is not at all helpful but I love the Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter. Rule #6 states:
I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.
BTW: I would love to see the other rules because #6 is awesome
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cldancersmom
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Quote: I don't think she needs me to balance her checkbook.
I LMAO!! If she was smart she'd stick to money matters, and let the men come later! LOL! |
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Suebydoo
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Quote: Originally Posted by crazymom4Quote: Originally Posted by Suebydoo
Keep her busy, listen if she wants to talk, and take her shopping. Seriously, go shopping. I once read somewhere about a Dad who took his daughter out to buy a new pair of killer shoes so that she could walk away in style.
This part is not at all helpful but I love the Simple Rules for Dating My Daughter. Rule #6 states:
I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.
wonderful words of advice in my opinion.
BTW: I would love to see the other rules because #6 is awesome
Here's the link:
Rules for Dating My Daughter
and my other favorite:
Application to Date My Daughter
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crazymom4
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Awesome. Having raised 3 boys so far, I never realized that there were rules but having a 12 year old girl I think it is a good idea.
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Giver her a big hug, tell her that you know how bad she is hurting and no words can really make it stop right now, tell her that her family will always be there to support and comfort her. Remind her that all of the dating she does as a teen is just practice for when the real thing comes along, and as painful as it feels now - it will get better with every passing day.
Then don't dwell on it - it'll likely be just the first in a few broken hearts, she needs to learn it's not the end of the world.
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2girlsmom
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The Rules are hysterical and so is the application. I kinda agree with all of them!
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Suebydoo
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Did I mention that I used a variation when I met my nephew's first girlfriend?????
"I have no doubt you are a popular girl, with many opportunities to date other boys. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with ****. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my favorite guy in the world, you will continue to date no one but him until he is finished with you. If you make him unhappy, I will make you miserable. Do we understand each other?"
I thought he was going to choke. She looked shocked for about 2 seconds and then burst out laughing. Do you think that I should have told her I was serious? They dated for a year.
Oh, he has never introduced me to another girlfriend. Go figure! |
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SarasMom
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You can tell her that apparently he is a fool, because he doesn't know a good thing when he sees it, and boy, is he gonna be sorry when he realizes the big mistake he made by breaking up with her. Unfortunately by that time, she will be over him and will have realized what a fool he is and she doesn't need to be seen with a guy like that.
AND, does she want to have a boyfriend that treats her so badly that he breaks up with her like that? She's lucky she didn't waste any MORE time one him!!
AND, she can always tell people SHE broke up with HIM!
I know these may not apply or be true but sometimes it just nice to hear it being said.
Also, if she has some close girl friends to hang out with, it might be nice to have a sleepover. Its good to commiserate with your girlfriends!
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2girlsmom
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I don't know who Jill is but we are all required to despise her until further notice because he is now in love with her (since leaving my DD on Friday). I would not be 15 again for anything.
A shopping trip has been planned for Saturday. 
I don't think I am very good at this. Maybe I am missing a vital mommy gene.
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Quote: Originally Posted by 2girlsmomI don't know who Jill is but we are all required to despise her until further notice because he is now in love with her (since leaving my DD on Friday). I would not be 15 again for anything.
A shopping trip has been planned for Saturday.
I don't think I am very good at this. Maybe I am missing a vital mommy gene.
The fact that you came on here asking for suggestions, means your a pretty good mommy in my books! Enjoy the shopping trip! |
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